What was that one decision that changed your life forever?

1. I decided to ghost my entire birth family. While reading a book about child abuse, I started connecting the dots that I hadn't just been abused by my brothers, my parents had abused them, causing them to abuse me. After that thought entered my head, I just couldn't pretend that we were a happy family anymore. I got a therapist, blocked all digital contact, and I have been so much happier since.
   — DarkNFullOfSpoilers


2. Using a sperm donor so my wife and I could have kids. Thanks anonymous man for masturbating into a cup!
   — Jesmasterzero


3. Putting myself first. I quit that job that was slowly killing me with stress. Sleepless nights, horrible heartburn, panic attacks, texts and angry phone calls all hours of the day and night, nothing I did was ever good enough and I was actually starting to believe the horrible things my boss would say about me... So I quit. Put myself first. Got two great part time jobs that aren't stressful at all. I'm valued. I may not make as much money, but I'm happy. And being happy, as it turns out, is pretty fucking awesome.
   — Miyenne






4. In a sort of roundabout way, downloading Tinder. It took like a month of not really using the app, but after a few right-swipes, I found this girl who messaged back and wanted to meet the next day. We talked about bands in a Starbucks for like three hours, then later that night, we watched The Polar Express. We've been living together for like two years now, and our wedding is in May.
   — ursus95


5. Getting married. My marriage didn't work and we were just toxic together. Through this though I learned a lot about myself and matured. I really took ownership of my life.
   — Wizzard82


6. I almost ditched my friend when he told me he’s meeting up with a chick he met online as it was supposed to be just us boys. I ended up going because she brought a friend. That friend and I have been inseparable for the last 6 years and are getting married on Saturday.
   — half_arian






7. Listening to my partner to start talking to my dad again. A month after we talked again, he passed away from a heart attack. I wouldn't be able to live with myself if my last memory of him was being mad at him.
   — danikitty710


8. Deciding not to kill myself was pretty big.
   — adude350


9. Hanging out with two randos who were in town as tourists. I wound up marrying one.
   — shadowblind07






10. Not judging somebody at first glance. When I was a freshman in college, there was a girl on my dorm floor that dressed all types of wacky, wore rainbows everywhere, was chubby, and generally had all the markings of a Hot Topic meltdown. I initially thought she was just some poser fake geek girl type of person, but upon realizing that that was a very shitty way to think about anybody, especially somebody I didn't even know, I took a chance and hung out with her and a group of mutual friends. 8 years later and she's my best friend. We lived together through college, we help each other through crisis, and I couldn't imagine a life without her. She's my best friend and I am so damn happy that I pushed aside my prejudices and got to know her. :)
    — effervescenthoopla


11. Leaving the apartment after months of racial and emotional abuse from my ex.She used to cheat on me behind my back and I used to believe her lies and then she made me feel guilty as if I was wrong for pointing out the obvious.One day I just packed up and left telling her to leave when I came back.Turns out she never liked me as told to me later by her friends and was just mooching me for money.But that decision to walk away still is the best I had ever taken in my life
    — 8inchtall


12. Getting sober.
    — Silbersp






13. In my early 20's I fell inlove with a politicians son which my parents were stronly opposed to. It lead my parents to literally making me resign from my work as a successful manager in a media company and ship me abroad to separate us (Helicopter Asian parenting at its best). My then bf and his family offered me to elope and live with them seeing as my current household situation was getting toxic. I hesitated on the offer because my mom had a heart condition and I feared that the stress of me running away would kill her. So I left for abroad being under my moms surveillance. Had to start from scratch and the incident estranged my rel with my mom till her death. Sadly my rel with my then BF didnt survive due to the stress of separation. Sometimes I regret not eloping with him because I think I was the happiest in my life when I was with him :(
    — Sweetragnarok