Women of Reddit, what do you think is the hardest part of being a man ?

1. either crippling loneliness or the expectation you will have to make the first move (and get ignored)
   — aragami12


2. Whenever my brother and I got into a fight as kids, it could only end one of two ways for him: "You got beat up by a girl? What's the matter with you?" Or... "You beat up a girl? What's the matter with you?"
   — ghostgirlgray


3. I know this doesn't always apply but in general there is more cultural pressure to bottle up sadness. There is for all adults but definitely more for men. In fact a lot of men show they're hurting by being a dick and waiting for someone who cares to break down their walls. If no one does they just become bitter.
   — DNAsplicelatte






4. I've heard lots of stories of men being out in public with their daughters/nieces and being (not even subtly) scrutinized by women as if, for no reason at all, there's reason to think they're predators. I'm sorry.
   — Omnideficient


5. Balancing a genuine fondness for children against fear of being mistaken for a paedophile.
   — Ragdoll_Proletariat


6. I feel bad for guys that have to shoulder the entire financial weight of their families. Like my husband, since we have small kids we agreed I'd stop working for a while. Although he earns good money and I'm pretty good at managing a budget I do feel bad for him as he's entirely responsible for keeping our family afloat. He even comes home from work cleans the kitchen, helps with any homework if he has time and puts them to bed before we settle down and fold laundry together while watching TV. He is one hell of a responsible human being.
   — steerpike88






7. This by far isn't the hardest part, but it has to be not so great: not getting compliments. I've learned recently on Reddit that men don't receive compliments terribly often, from either men or women. They don't get them from men because guys don't want to be mistaken for being gay, and don't get them from women because the women don't want to be mistaken for flirting. I've received compliments my entire life, from my parents, from boyfriends, from colleagues, from random people on the street who want to say something nice to me. And as someone who noticed that all of those compliments dried up when I became overweight and then come back when I lost said weight, it was a part of life that I missed, and then enjoyed when it returned. I am now on a one woman mission to compliment men as often as possible. I don't even care if they mistake it as me coming on to them, I'll deal with that fallout when it happens.
   — JaniePage


8. Being expected to know what to do and take charge to fix any situation, regardless of having any experience or training on the subject. Flat tire? Leaky faucet? Dangerous animal? Gadget with a 200 page manual in Chinese? Surely your penis grants you knowledge of how to handle all of this. If you're having a bad day, or your life sucks, just "man up" and deal with it. All on your own because asking for help is a sign of weakness. Also you have to do all the heavy lifting and give your coat to the lady without complaint.
   — puppylust


9. Cultivating a confident attitude when you lack experience. I know for me, the idea of someone confident and outgoing, who knows what they want, and sexually dominant is what I like in men, but how to get there seems so hard. I don't know how you go from a stupid teen who doesn't know what they're doing with women to having the confidence to get women, if that makes sense. We're supposed to be kind of passive and shy in that situation, but men don't really have that option. I guess they just fake it til they make it, but it seems like a huge challenge for most people.
   — counterboud






10. Not being able to tell your guy friends how your break up has mentally crippled you. Nope you have to deal with it and hit the clubs but be back home and cry yourself to sleep hoping she would text you back. (Heard from a guy friend)
    — oldtaylorswift