30+ year old virgins of Reddit, does it effect your life in any way? If so, how?

1. A friend is 32 and recently lost his virginity a few months ago. I thought he would die a virgin but a girl of his own size and geekiness showed interest and made all the moves on him. Lets just say a few months later he thinks more highly of himself and now they must be fused together somehow since everything is "we" or "our".
   — enrodude


2. A woman in my 40s. Exceptionally unattractive due to a genetic disorder. It's not the virginity so much as the lack of relationships, and the fact that even platonic social bonds are hard to maintain when most people are coupled. Also the fear of the future - if the family member on whom I'm dependent (I'm partially disabled) passes away, I could be on the street and completely alone. It bothered me a lot the last few years, but now I'm very ill and waiting on a possible cancer diagnosis. I'm glad, at least, that I won't be leaving any children motherless or a husband as a widower, so maybe things were planned to be this way.
   — Under_the_bluemoon


3. A few months into wizardhood here. It doesn't really bother me anymore, but when I was in my early and mid 20s I felt a lot more pressure about it. now i feel like if it happens it's cool, and if not, I'm fine with that too. It doesn't really have any major effect on my life, though. I'm not upset about it, and I don't really even think about it most of the time.
   — not_good_at_lurking






4. On my way to becoming a proper wizard. Because we all know that once your a 40 year old virgin you gain magic. At least that's what I've read. In comics. I'm very lonely.
   — Foxingaboot


5. Turning 33 soon. The main thing that has changed is the way the future looks and feels. The best way I can describe it is that in the past, it felt like I was driving along a bendy road with new sites at every turn. I felt that whatever I might be missing/seeking was going to be around one of those bends and I just had to keep driving to find it. Now, it feels like I'm driving an endless straight road down a mountain to an ocean. I'm sitting up higher in the cab and I see time spread out in front of me. And now, when I think about what I am missing/seeking, I have to look out at that big landscape and ask myself: "Where?" Where is it going to happen. I feel I need to place it somewhere distinct out there in the landscape of time because the space available has become finite and is growing smaller every day.
   — MasterChinchilla


6. I came too early for the sad comments
   — boredbash






7. I am a 33 year old male, 34 in a few days. It doesn't seem to affect my life. In my 20's I struggled with it because I felt like I needed to. It took a few years in my late 20's to realized that I, myself, really wasn't that interested. It was just societal pressure. I think maybe one day I would like to be in a loving relationship were I feel like I can share that part of myself, but I am not at all looking. I don't want to have sex just to have sex. I don't think I will find any benefit in that. And relationships are a lot of work. I have five older sisters, all of which have been married, some now divorced, some still married. I have other friends and watched their relationships and marriages. No thanks. Maybe I will regret that later in life, but the amount of work my sisters and friends have put in is too much for me right now. In the end, I know I don't want to have casual sex and don't feel I am in a place in my life were I want to have a relationship either. I am okay with that.
   — at5147


8. Not 30 yet, but almost (I'm 27) and it kind of sucks. I don't think I'm the ugliest person in the world, maybe a little overweight, but I was always really awkward and maybe even a little prudish when I was younger so never put myself out there in terms of dating which is why I never had sex before. In the last 4- 5 years, I've come out of my shell more but now I'm super embarrassed about the virgin thing so I break it off with people after two or three dates. It's a stupid cycle - I'm scared about being shit in bed or them judging me for still being a virgin so I'm staying a virgin longer. Oh and how it affects my life? I think I probably think about sex all the time, way more than the average girl simply because I've built it up so much in my head. EDIT: Well that was lovely. So many nice positive and genuinely helpful replies. I feel much less anxious about the whole thing now so thank you everyone for the lovely advice. Also, thanks but no thanks for the sex offers. I don't understand why people offer that on Reddit. Even if I was to accept, I could literally be on the other side of the planet to you!
   — mythrowaway4432