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Girls of reddit, what subtle hints do you drop, when you want a guy to ask you out?
- I laugh at every joke he says. I can't help it, it's not being fake, I just get a nervous giggle that won't seem to go away.
— alabamacakelady
- I'm literally too nervous to drop any hints.
One time, the guy I liked hugged me and I turned around and immediately broke a pot and the dirt spilled everywhere.
So breaking shit?
— Imyourspiritanimal1
- "do you want to grab a drink sometime?" Or alternatively "do you want to come back to my house to watch the dark Knight trilogy?" (Second one is how I got my fiancé 5 years ago)
— cinnamonbanana
- I mention being single as casually as I can.
— GoGoCourtzilla
- I'm a dude, but I had this pretty hilarious subtle hint thing that happened to me a while ago...
So I worked with this young lady at a job where we were doing a lot of mindless clerical work. The kind of thing you could do while having an in depth conversation without breaking pace.
So we'd chat a lot. Talk about dating woes, friends, family, usual coworker/low level friend stuff.
One day I was singing a Billy Joel song. It was just on the radio and it was stuck in my head. [*I don't want to be alone anymore*](https://www.azlyrics.com/lyrics/billyjoel/idontwanttobealone.html)
I'm not looking at her. Just kind of singing to myself. Finally she says, "Look, I'd totally be into you if I was even remotely attracted to you."
Huh? And ouch?
So I ask her WTF she's talking about, she cites the song. I tell her I wasn't hitting on her, sorry, I was just singing a stupid song that got stuck in my head. It should sound familiar as it had been on the radio in our office about 10 minutes prior.
Her: "Oh, my mistake..."
Now, aside from the comment about not being attracted to me, I pretty much dropped it and moved on.
So I don't know if I touched off some sort of nerve or something, but immediately afterward she started acting somewhat nervously around me. So I gave her some space. Figured maybe she was just embarrassed about the song thing. Then she starts complaining about being single, bored, wanting to do stuff.
At first it seemed like normal conversation. But she just wouldn't let it go, so I suggested we go to see a band at this local place. She agreed. We were there for about fifteen minutes before she just grabbed my head and kissed me.
And that, my friends, is how I met my ex-wife.
— TheFire_Eagle
- Tell all his friends I want to bang him. Good wingmen always pass it on!
— ladytwoface
- 1. If I am confident he is into me or might be interested, I basically ask him out.
2. I casually give compliments and touch his arm lightly, fix his hair or tie or whatever, actually look into his eyes while I'm laughing at his joke, even if it's not entirely funny.
And also, I try hard and pay extra attention to listen to him while he talks about something he is passionate about or tells me something that happened.
So that I can remember what he might be interested in, or link that information with something related 3 days later to show that, i actually paid attention. And listened to you. And tried hard to remember what you said.
It might sound normal but for a girl like me who has her days and weeks completely packed and busy 90% of the time and has 176528 things to remember, that one is a big deal for me.
— namilivsn