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What are small things you do to show your SO you love them?
- My girlfriend is pretty short, so I lift her up sometimes so she can touch things she normally can't and say, "You're so tall!" little things like that makes her happy.
— QGroovy
- I take mental notes of small things he mentions he wants or needs. On our first date he told me that he and his dad used to watch this random Christmas movie every year. Since his father passed away when he was 15, I thought it would be nice to get him that movie for our first Christmas. It took me a while to find it but I finally did and when he opened it, he had to excuse himself from the room because he got choked up. I have done that same thing for the last 7 years. If he mentions something in a passing conversation, I will order it for him and either give it to him when I get it or save it for a holiday. He really appreciates that I listen to him and take the time to make him feel special.
— Arthurdimmesdalesgal
- I love to draw mini comics of cute shit that they/we did and stick them in hard to find places around their room/house, so that the good memories flood back weeks after the event.
This recently backfired when a guy I dated 2 years ago sent me a "take me back" text after finally checking his fusebox.
— dildovengeance
- One thing I’ve started doing more consciously is complimenting his appearance. In these kinds of reddit threads, a common theme is that men don’t get a lot of personalized compliments, so I remind myself to tell him that he looks nice in that shirt, or his hair caught my attention, or that the muscles in his arms are sexy.
Another thing that I do with intentionality is greet him at the door when he comes home, so that he feels welcomed into the house each evening.
— Janigiraffey
- The trick with small things, is you have to find the small things that your SO sees as being loving, not you. It can be different. A small gesture from you can be completely overlooked by them if it's not their thing, but here are what I think are good options:
(1) Make a really nice dinner. They come home from work and the table is set with a tablecloth and nice dishes. Make a favorite, hearty meal like lasagna or pot roast with potatoes. Do the dishes while they get to relax and digest.
(2) A small inexpensive gift you bought them just because it made you think about them.
(3) Out of nowhere, give them a big kiss, look them in the eye smiling and say, "I really love you."
(4) Instead of loxing out and watching TV one night, suggest you guys take a walk together and just talk. Ask them questions about how life is really going for them and genuinely listen.
(5) Have sex in one of the ways that they like it but you are less excited about, do it 100% their way, and show how much you are enjoying it.
(6) Offer to take care of an annoying task that they have been putting off.
— zazzlekdazzle
- Make the leftover hair stuck on the shower wall into little hearts.
— Gleeemonex
- She really loves shoulder rubs and when you massage and scratch her head through her hair. Doing this randomly when she doesn't ask for it makes her very happy.
— Brolurk9
- I give her a foot rub before she goes to bed almost every night. I'm not really into feet, but she loves it and she's on her feet almost all day so it's the least I can do. Side effect is that I also have really soft hands now.
— PM_ME_YOUR_BEERBELLY
- I just try to be the best partner I can be.
We own our own small taxi company, and she drives 12-15 hours a night, 5 nights a week.
In return, I:
-Take care of literally everything else for the business (finances/bill pay, paperwork, accounting/bookkeeping, advertising, media, legal, PR, mechanical/maintenance/shop work, auto detailing, etc.)
-Do the laundry, do the dishes, clean the house, take care of all the pets (two huskies, two cats, hamsters), pay the bills, do the bulk of the grocery shopping, fix/maintain the house, yard, and garage, keep track of all appointments/the calender, and carry the bulk of raising our daughter.
I basically do everything in my power to make her ridiculous work schedule, and having to deal with the general public and drunks, as simple and easy as possible. I try to put as much dedication and work into our lives as possible...that's the best way for me to show her how much I love her and value our lives together.
Other than that, a simple "I love you" and a random game, trinket, whatever does the trick as well.
— MouthForWar86
- My SO gets up for work at 5am, so he's always first to bed and first awake for the day. In the winter time, before I go to bed, I close the bathroom door so that it will trap in the heat from the vent overnight and keep it nice and toasty inside for his morning shower.
— Bionicflipper
- If I go out running in the evening before she's back from work, I always leave a note telling her how cool she is, normally with illustrations.
— funpowder_plot
- I leave her roses by the stairs, surprises let her know I care
— fmc25
- Every morning, since I get up about an hour before she does, after I get to work and she's awake I text her "Good morning beautiful." and every night we hug as soon as we see each other. They are my two favorite parts of my day.
— Buwaro