What are the signs of someone being "fake nice" ?

1. It's really hard going off of words and conversation alone, and if you're trying to go off that, there's a high chance you'll get burned. You get all those people who can seem super nice in conversation -- they remember your name, details, etc. -- but actually have agendas (coming off as genuine is something that can DEFINITELY be practiced). On the flip side, you get people who seem like boisterous, superficial people, but are actually super nice when you get to know them. It's best to go off actions. Does a person do kind things consistently when nobody else is paying attention? Is a person actually there for you consistently to do mundane but important things (like take you to the airport, etc.) when there's nothing to be gained? Words and mannerisms mean almost nothing in the grand scheme of things. Go off a personal track record -- that's way more reliable.
   — sexualramen


2. Overly pleasant to your face, while unnecessarily dumping on other people. While talking to those other people, they will be overly pleasant to their face, never addressing any issues they bitched about to you.
   — FollowsShinyThings


3. They can get fed up of you easily and only contact you when they need something
   — AttonRand1






4. Most people who are on the clock at their job.
   — ImBruceWillis


5. But hey there's a loop to this How would you know if they are faking being nice because they're nice or for some other reason?
   — shiunji


6. The most evil bitch I ever encountered would talk constantly in this high-pitched baby voice. It was as if she was always trying to control any interaction or confrontation with constant chatter. She would make suspiciously specific denials out of nowhere. "I've never done drugs in my life!" when we weren't discussing drugs or partying. Come to find out, she was snorting Adderall.
   — transemacabre






7. "Fake nice" people will constantly talk about the misfortunes of others and pretend to be concerned about the person when in fact they actually enjoy feeling sorry for him/her. Have a friend who does this a lot. Always says how 'sad' it is that so and so isn't doing too well at their new job, 'what a shame' that their SO dumped them, etc. It was always bad news about others that they relished sharing.
   — coturnixxx


8. Act nice when you're the only person they can talk to, but as soon as someone they know shows up you're invisible.
   — kkkkinkee


9. Back handed compliments. "I love how you don't care about how you look" "Wow! I didn't expect you to get the job!" "You look so great for your age/size!"
   — PM_ME_TINY_DINOSAURS