Women of Reddit, what are your honest thoughts on modern feminism as a movement?

1. I'll start by saying I'm a civil rights lawyer and a 29 year old woman. Once you get off the ickier parts of Tumblr and spend time around people actually doing the work of intersectional feminism you see it's a movement rooted in positive ideas. I want to liberate everyone from traditional gender roles, not just women. I really enjoy browsing r/menslib for their perspective. I want boys to be able to cry and girls to be able to wear what they want. I want men and women to both have paid parental leave. I want women and men to both have economic and educational opportunities. I want the right to make decisions about my reproductive health. I want men to comfortably enter professions where they work with young kids. I want trans and nonbinary to be free to live open and honest lives. The real work of modern feminism is being done every day through programs and education that undermine traditional western gender roles for everyone and I think it's beautiful.
   — northernspy


2. I'm a female and I do identify as a feminist. For the most part, feminists are good people with good ideas. *However,* people who label themselves "hardcore feminists" tend to be incredibly obnoxious. Quotes like "All men deserve to die!", "Women are the better sex", and "We should have this woman as a CEO" (even though she's highly unqualified) make my eyes roll. I think it's wrong to have extreme views of anything. Extreme feminists, extreme Trump supporters, extreme watermelon appreciators, etc. Hardcore feminists are ruining feminism for the rest of us, and can strongly deter people away from it.
   — symbiosa


3. I'm really grateful for it. I was raised in an extremely conservative religious household and feminism opened my eyes to a lot of shit I experienced growing up. I'm happy that I can spot and avoid that nonsense now instead of tolerating it because it's "just how things are, women are made to be martyrs, a woman's place is this, etc."
   — Prielle






4. I am a feminist but I have never met a 'hardcore feminist' in the wild, doesn't mean they don't exist, just that I have never encountered them. I think that in part people hightlight the most extreme examples they can find, examples most people wouldn't agree with, to shame people and try to scare them away from calling themselves feminists. Men are not inherently evil, they do not deserve to die, we are not MEANT to be attracted only to woment and not men (What?), men should be given equal rights in regard to children's custody and if the mother is unstable then they should consider giving sole custody to dad or at least giving them a little more control over what happens. I believe in equality. Women are people, men are people. I don't think it's bad to debate or discuss these things, I think it helps everyone refine their ideas and question our preconceived assumptions. It's the reason I read MensRights subreddit even though it sometimes makes me crazy. The ridiculous things I see portrayed on here as 'feminist thought' also piss me off. This is an important conversation to have, and like all important conversations it can be uncomfortable and get people annoyed. not a good reason not to have it. EDIT: just to be clear I am fine with all sexualities, I was referring to a post that showed up recently where some women (or troll?) thought all women should be only attracted to other women. I'm hoping they were joking or trolling. If they weren't they are crazy extreme and no, the majority of us do not agree with them.
   — Crossing34