Redditors who are now married because you didn't know how to break up with your SO, how is that going for you?

1. Not me, but my parents. My dad tried to break up with my mom after two years together, but she burst into tears when she realized what was going on and he chickened out. For a while, she'd try to avoid anything that'd trigger him trying again. Eventually, he gave up and figured "well, been together this long, I guess we'll get married." They were married for 20+ years, had a few kids. Stayed together mostly for us, despite clearly not getting along with each other at all by the end. Now divorced, and can't even talk about the other person without going into a rage. It's fun.
   — UsedToBeOnFire


2. I tried to break up with my wife twice while we were dating. The first time she didn't even realize it. Second time she talked me out of it. We're married now and have kids. I'm extremely happy with how it worked out. We have two girls and I couldn't be happier. She helps me to be a better person.
   — I_AM_A_MOTH_AMA


3. Technically I'm not "now" married, but I was married to a person I knew (without any doubt) was a huge mistake to marry. I tried to back out last minute but was guilted into going on with it due to the amount of money that was spent on the wedding, which was a week away. I lasted two years before realizing that I had to get out for everyone's sake. It was a nightmare, every day. I felt like my soul was leaking out every minute of it. Now, however, I'm happier than I've ever been, and I feel like I'm lucky as hell to have left when I knew I needed to.
   — coffee-jnky






4. It was terrible. I never planned to really date her for all that long. When the thought of marriage went through my head it was simply "the next thing I guess. " so we married. It was alright, but mediocre turned slowly to not enough, to, I am not happy. I thought about how I would likely out live her and never wanted to break her heart. So almost twenty years passed like this. Trust me, just make your decisions and love by them. You are not saving them from pain by waiting.
   — ghostdog1975


5. Well, it's just after one in the afternoon and we've only hissed at each other twice today, so I'd say pretty good, thanks. Nine more years and the kid flies the nest.
   — felagund


6. That sounds like a terrible place to be in.
   — Sheltac






7. i may be the only one who posts something like this but: We fell back in love. I can't imagine being with anyone else. I want to be with him forever now. I feel like we are built into one another, like those trees that grow together and would died if separated. it wasn't that neither of us knew how to break up, its just that neither of us were sure if breaking up was right either. Maybe we were just too lazy to want to start over with someone else. For a while there we were bounded by financial ties and kids, but now it would be easy to go our separate ways. But after going through all the hell, now that the worst stresses are gone (i.e. financial, having to work our asses off), i'm glad we came around full circle to enjoy life again. The best is going on vacations with him, thats how i know I'm with the right person.
   — No_Administration


8. Ask my wife.
   — evil_leaper


9. I just broke up with someone because if I didn't that would be me. The buildup was two years of just knowing it wasn't right and trying so hard to make it right. I felt guilty and anxious 24/7. Finally I got up the courage, and have never spent a second since that breakup feeling anything but glorious freedom and joy. He was great but I am finally free from my own mental prison and it is so much easier than I imagined when I was in it. I feel better literally every day.
   — Xenasty






10. It is going really unpretty \- its been 10 years now, and I got married young \(23\) and we have a baby now. It wasn't just not knowing how to break with her, I did not know how to say no to absolutely anyone. Needless to say, with this nature my 20s have been stressful both maritally and otherwise. Eventually, I started to grow a spine and develop a voice, not just with her but as a person. We had a watershed relationship moment few years back and I spoke about many things which were left unsaid, but I couldn't quite tell her this. I do not have the heart to say it. So how does it feel in the relationship? Well, we humans are strangely able to adapt. Even if you do not love your partner in that 'love' sort of a way, you care about them. \(That care and concern about not hurting them was what got me here in the first place, isn't it?\). And life goes by. Until you fall in love and you want to be with someone else. What do you do then? What is the moral thing to do? I have no idea. It has been a living hell these past few months.
    — ToDeeOrNot