(Serious) Why is it frowned upon for people to genuinely want to die?

1. This is a really difficult thing to comment on because regardless what you say someone will think the opposite and itll result in cyberwar and pixel-pellets
   — jeffreyC98


2. There is rarely any virtue in dying. When there is virtue in it, ie dying to save a life, it isn't really frowned upon. By living, no matter your circumstances, you *can* add value to the world, even if your circumstances are horrific for you. This is where it gets really muddy. There are circumstances such as being incapacitated and a huge burden to loved ones where you may percieve your death as adding value to the world. This may even be the case sometimes, I just think that too often people see themselves as burdens moreso than the ones who are burdened by them. Now, I believe in the right to die. However, I will not say that to choose death over pain isn't often a selfish act. But, I'm also not 100% virtuous and do act selfishly from time to time myself so I am not quick to judge those who choose to die. I am grateful I am not currently someone who has to make such a choice.
   — xero_art


3. Jesus lord this thread is upsetting. Since reddit is largely populated by people in their teens and 20s, I am going to assume the same for the commenters here. I have contemplated suicide many times in my life, but every time I made the mistake of thinking the way I felt then was the way I would always feel. As I have gotten older, my suicidal feelings have mellowed a lot because I have been through the cycles enough times to see their various sources (often anger and desire to punish the world somehow as well as just a desire to end my own emotional suffering) and also know that these times - horrible as they are - pass. The reason I stay alive is the same as I read here recently. Life is a story, my life is my story, and I want to see how the story plays out. And I know suicide is one of the only decisions I cannot undo. I have not had an easy life - lots of abuse and loneliness in there, plus some bad decisions on my part and just plain bad luck. But it's still my life, and I still have some agency over what happens, and what to see the story out until the end. If I had to live with (or not live, as the case may be) with all the decisions I made and could have made it my teens and 20s things would be so much worse. The way things are now, for better or worse, is not how they always will be. Saying it's how they always have been when you are younger doesn't mean as much as one thinks it does, because your life often doesn't really take off until you have agency over it - living on your own, working for a living, etc.
   — zazzlekdazzle






4. The people frowning are the ones who have a decent enough life that they don't understand the sweet release of death.
   — princefftanxx


5. Some people fight so hard to live that it can be frustrating to see someone who wants to throw it away.
   — kasZZZ


6. Probably because our most ingrained instinct is survival. Also, socially, life is supposed to be looked at as a gift. It's bullshit, I know. Death to me sounds like bliss. It's the getting there that could be a bitch.
   — lalafriday






7. For me it depends on who wants to die. Old people, terminally ill people I can understand. I frown upon healthy kids and adults wanting to die for a couple of reasons. One, I like to hope that there is a way out of the situation that they find themselves in which makes them want to die. Two, I generally assume that those who want to die themselves have loved ones that do not want them to die. If my kids were depressed over something and were contemplating suicide, I would not want to have them hear the words "well I guess that's your choice". I get that I'm on the positivity train that many aren't, but I still like to think there is hope for almost everyone to turn it around, or to find something that would make them happy.
   — FattyMcButterPantzz


8. For me personally, its because there are so many people fighting to stay alive. And wish they can live longer. I watched my mom battle cancer when she was just 47 years old. She was terminal and I watched her slowly die for 10 months. She didn't want to die. I guess for me, I just feel bitter bc here is someone saying they want to die but then my mom gets taken so young and she wanted to stay. Fucked up world.
   — MsCardeno